So you think you did everything right… made a vision board, meditated, dreamed about your goal and it still didn’t happen. You’re down and wondering Where’s The Justice when a kind friend takes your hand and soothes… “It wasn’t meant to be.” Whenever I hear it, I can’t help wondering, Huh? Who said so? And how do YOU know?
These are generally meant to be words of comfort and they are, right? Bingo…you’re off the hook and totally absolved from any responsibility. Now something that you can’t see, hear or smell decided that whatever specific goal you’re striving for, you can’t have. So what’s next? Make another vision board? Maybe check those affirmations in case your wording is skewed?
Personally, I’m not a good rider…I like to drive. If I failed to meet a goal, I go back and review my steps because I probably missed one. If there is something out of my control–– let’s say the economy or the state of publishing (my goal is to be published by a mainstream publisher)–– then I start looking for things that I can hands-on manage to increase my chance of success.
Do I pray? More times a day than I can count. Do I wish on a star? Every single time I see one. What do I pray for? I pray for wisdom so that I can see the path more clearly. Because frankly, when success comes about I want partial credit for making it happen. If the universe provided an opportunity, was I able to grasp and direct it? Did I exercise free will and as a result seal the deal?
Is this a different type of dependency that our culture seems to be fostering? Is this unwillingness to take responsibility for ourselves and our own actions now spread to our personal objectives? A sort of Karmic welfare? Are we lining up, hoping to cash in our Karma coins… you’ve ‘gone around’ now it’s time for something good to ‘come around?’
Maybe “it isn’t meant to be” because you missed a step or the timing is wrong. Research might even confirm that. To be honest, I find that a more plausible premise.
Believing in magic is well and good, but what about believing in yourself? Well, that’s another story! And I’d like to respectively suggest that only you can write that tale…